Why is it that we allow failure to manifest and consume our daily lives or being? Failure has been defined as: 1. Lack of success, 2. A lack or deficiency of a desirable quality, 3. The action or state of not functioning. How we choose to view failure is a statement on our own individual outlooks on life. To fail or be deemed a failure by others should hold no value as failure cannot be measured like a statistic. Failure cannot be summed or generalized into one category. Failure is an individualized opinion regarding someone’s personal views of how things are supposed to be. Can failure be viewed as being judgmental? Not only of yourself but others as well?
It is important that we know and write our own stories. Asking ourselves, is it failure or is God saying not yet? Learning to live with the “not right now” could be super beneficial in the long haul. Can you ask yourself, am I any closer today (even just a half of a hair closer) than I was before I tried? Success has been defined as 1. The accomplishment of an aim or purpose!
Instead of measuring our failures here are some positive ways to measure your success:
1. What have I learned? Anything I can apply as a steppingstone for the next time?
2. Am I realistically holding myself accountable for what I can control?
(Overcome triumph and adversity)
3. Can I shift and push myself outside of my comfort zone?
We must choose to change our outlook on our efforts away from failure and focus on successes it’ll make for a happier self with something to always look forward to. Remember you are NOT defined by an individualized perception of failures/successes, but you ARE defined as who you are and how you view yourself! God will lead you along the way providing you with all the necessary tools and resources to get through it on His time not yours! Be kind to yourself, be patient, and give it your all! A favorite quote from Marianne Williamson reads:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~Marianne Williamson